Guest Blog: “Hot, Love, Drama” Edition – By Eric Blair
And we’re back…What’s on my mind this week? Ahh! That’s it, relationships!
Not the good or bad times in the relationship; more like the confusing times. The
following are moments when relationships stop being complex and just get absurd. “The
Relationship Article: Hot Love Drama edition.” Okay, enough of reality shows
references. Let’s get back to real life. I need to understand the reasoning behind the
following topics friends with benefits, instant relationships and long drama breakups, and
baby momma and daddy drama. I really don’t have any answers or rational reasoning for
these issues. I just want a better understanding of why we put ourselves through
unnecessary drama. Is it in our nature as humans to deal with drama from another party?
Why can’t we just walk away from simpleton confrontation? Is it pride, or do we need to
prove our point to ignorant people? I just want someone to help me out here, seriously.
What’s your reasoning? I know a few people might relate to a topic or two. I have a
Facebook page. Drop me a line or two if you could answer or have some insight to give
me. Honestly, I am really perplexed by, “The Hot Love Drama.”
Have you ever had a friend with benefits? Of course you have! We all had one at
some point. For people out there who are not sure what a “friend with benefits” is, it’s
when people are engage in sexual intercourse without being in a relationship. Very few
go on to be something bigger and most just remain as a booty call. Okay, now we’re all
up to speed and some of us are shocked that we are or have been, a booty call. It’s okay, it
happens to the best of us. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with sexual friendships
or as I like to call them “sexships.” Believe me, I’ve my share! Keep it safe at all times.
Anywhooo, I digress, I do not understand the drama, lies, and pettiness that come with
some sexships. To my logic, it’s a silent agreement, sometimes verbalized between two
adults to just go with the flow. Going with the flow doesn’t involve snooping,
questioning, jealousy, stalking, breaking an entry, baby father/mother drama, hiding
second family, crazy calls from current girl/boyfriend, or any other unnecessary idiocy.
This drama defeats the propose of the sexship. It’s like breaking an unspoken contract.
The point of a sexship is to circumvent the complexity of a relationship. So, why do
people continue to deal with this mayhem? No sex is so great for one to deal with drama
when he or she is not in a relationship. Why do men put up with crazy woman and
women put up with lying, cheating men. There are too many people in the world to deal
with one another’s antics. I want everyone from here on out, before you move forward in
a sexship, be true and real to yourself and the other person in the sexship. If you have a
wife, girl, man, husband or anything of that nature; tell the other person about your
significant other to divert drama. For the other side, if you feel that they are being sneaky,
dishonest, strange, or just plain old crazy, abort mission! I repeat: abort mission! At the
end of the day, it’s just sex. Give the other person enough respect to say yes or no upon
entering into this sexship. Eight times out of ten, you’ll be surprised with their answer.
What’s an instant relationship you ask? It’s like instant oatmeal, instead of water
just add sex and we’re boy/girlfriend. There’s nothing wrong with mutual sex or a
sexship, but there is something wrong with knowing a woman/man for two weeks, having
some alright sex and now wanting to be partners. Wait. Slow up, you don’t know each
other well enough to be in a relationship. Is it the bright lights and sublime fantasy charm
of a new person of attraction? When did things turn for the bizarro? (A Superman
reference, hehehe.) Sex followed immediately by a relationship. Doesn’t anyone get an
option to say no anymore? It’s just what it is…Cool. Why are people getting into
relationships with people they barely know? This only leads one thing: drama! Help me
out here; is one party afraid to say “no” or “I’d prefer get to know you first?” Why are
people putting themselves into predicaments that will only cause chaos? No sex has ever
been so great to cause me to jump into a relationship with a person I barely know. (Then
again, I will engage in a sexual relationship with a woman I know little about. Sue me,
I’m human. Ha!) I really need to understand the common logic of people when they jump
into these instant relationships. Really, how long do you expect this to last? In a
thoroughly planned relationship, paradise lasts about one to two years if you’re lucky.
Paradise in an instant relationship should last…Hmmm…Maybe, two months? Then here
comes drama. I could never fathom how a person could have drama with someone they
barely know. Where does the drama come in? We had sex, great! We jumped into a
relationship the moment after sex, oh okay. We really can’t stand each other as human
beings, let’s break ties. Simple huh? Nope! Why are people so bitter over someone they
shouldn’t been with in the first place? Is it because they’re feeling foolish for getting into
the situation in the first place? My advice is, step back to paragraph two, and just keep it
as a friendly sexual relationship. If that doesn’t work, and someone insists on developing
a relationship from sex and thin air, walk away! Run away quickly because that person is
crazy and you’d be crazy to agree upon something so insane.
Whoever came up with the label baby daddy or baby momma? I feel that title is so
degrading and belittling to the person that helps to bring your child into this world. Where
does this drama come from? Bitterness? Jealousy? Anger? Why do women lose their
minds over useless men? Understand something, a child won’t keep a man or create a
bond with an invincible relationship. It’s very ignorant to use a child as a shield to battle
in the war of parenting. The key word: parenting. Parenting is the methods, techniques,
used or required in the rearing of children. So bottom line parents: cut the drama out; it’s
about the children not what you two had at one point or have done to each other in the
past. Ladies, cut the crazy stalking of the new girlfriend, busting out windows, or fist
fighting in the middle of the streets. You’re ladies, not savages; it’s not becoming of
yourself or a good look for your child to see. I really want to know, ladies, why do you
put yourselves through situations like that? Grow up and let go. Your sanity and child’s
future are way more important than inflicting pain on your child’s father. Men, fathers,
huddle up. Let me talk just to you for a second. First question, why the heck would you
ever put up with these ignorant shenanigans? Why embarrass yourself as a man trying to
out argue a woman. Is it pride? What goes through a man’s head to have a shouting match
with the mother of his child? It wasn’t always like this. How did things turn so sour?
There are other ways to get back at an ignorant woman. (Yeah, I am promoting revenge.
So what?) There are other ways to get your point across without arguing and still be a
father, if that’s what you chose to be; just keeping it honest. If your child’s mother is
arguing with you, walk away because if it’s not about your child it’s just nonsense. Get up
early the next day and go to family court to file for some form of custody. This way, you
cut the middle drama out and are still able to handle your job as a father. At the end of the
day, baby momma and daddy drama isn’t cute or cool. When did it become acceptable to
be a baby daddy or momma? When did it become cool to glorify your personal drama
with your child’s parent? When did the drama outweigh parental responsibilities?
Before I go, hot love drama isn’t cool. Friends with benefits (sexship) are just two
people enjoying each other sexually. Leave the drama at home, sex shouldn’t involve
drama. Instant relationships shouldn’t exist. If you don’t know the person’s favorite color
but know the color of their underwear, you shouldn’t be so quick to start a relationship.
Keep it safe sex or nothing at all, just say no to instant relationships. Baby momma/daddy
drama is unnecessary. Once a child comes along, regardless of relationship status, the
focal point is the upbringing of your child. If you all can’t get along then God bless your
child. If more people take a second to think about what they’re going into and weigh out
their options, maybe we would have less crazy, bitter women and angry, tough guys in
this world. If anyone wants to share thoughts about my inquires, or wants to give insight
based on or about their situation inbox me on Facebook. Type my name into the search
engine, and then SHAZAM! I will appear.
I’m Eric Blair; hope you’ve enjoyed reading my piece.
Peace! And see you soon!
Bonus: A Song of the same name…who knew. lol